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Can HIV Make You Want to Die? My Truth

Being sick is a normal thing, but being ill with a stigmatized condition brings the challenge beyond the misery of medication and mental distress. But can HIV cause suicidal ideation?

When I found out I was HIV-positive, it felt like my world ended. I couldn’t hear anything after the doctor said the words. My brain just went quiet. I sat there nodding as I understood, but inside, I was frozen. I didn’t know what to think, what to do, or who I was anymore.

Arriving home was absurd and scary. The paranoia inside me whispered, “Don’t touch anything, you’ve got HIV”. I was afraid even to use a glass to drink, scared that I might pass on the virus to my family.

Days went on, and the next few weeks were a blur. I kept smiling in front of my friends, pretending everything was fine. But deep inside, I was breaking. Every night, I would lie awake thinking, “What’s the point of this? What am I even fighting for?”.

How Did I Find It Out

I started asking myself if it would just be easier to disappear. I didn’t want to admit that I was having suicidal thoughts. I didn’t want to scare anyone or appear weak. But the truth is, the thoughts were genuine. They were heavy and came often.

I realized I got HIV from a night out when I used poppers at a party. I wasn’t thinking much about safety. I just wanted to feel free and forget how heavy life had been. A few weeks later, I started feeling sick. When I got tested, the results came back positive. My heart dropped. I felt frozen, like everything stopped. The shame hit me hard. I blamed myself and kept replaying that night in my head, over and over.

After that, I shut down. I didn’t tell anyone. I didn’t sleep. The thoughts in my head got darker. I didn’t want to live like this. I felt like my life was over. That was when I realized I needed help—real help from people who could understand what I was going through without judging me.

The Suicidal Thoughts Were Real

Who would have thought that the reckless use of dating apps like Grinder paired with chemsex could potentially destroy one’s life? The most challenging part was feeling like I couldn’t tell anyone. Being HIV-positive already felt like a secret too big to carry. Add being queer on top of that, and I felt like a walking target. I didn’t want pity, did not want lectures, just someone who understood.

I felt like a burden, like my life didn’t matter. The world didn’t seem made for people like me. No matter how many times I told myself I should be strong, I couldn’t get rid of the shame. The stress, the silence, and the fear made everything feel worse.

I was tired of pretending. Tired of feeling broken. Tired of fighting with myself every day.

Inspire Recovery Helped Me Stay Alive

I didn’t know what to expect when I first contacted Inspire Recovery. But I knew I had to do something. I couldn’t keep living like I was. I knew that Inspire Recovery was a drug addiction treatment center, but I also thought they could help me with my situation.

What I found at Inspire was different from anything I had tried before. It wasn’t just about HIV. It wasn’t just about my mental health. It was about me. The whole me. My story, my pain, my identity—everything.

Pretty known for their gender-affirming environment, I never felt judged or rejected. They listened without judgment. The counselors were kind, and they didn’t treat me like a diagnosis, but rather like a person. A person worth helping, someone struggling, but has strong faith to fight and continue with life. They knew what it meant to be queer and living with HIV but didn’t just nod and move on.

I was able to talk about things I had never said out loud: my fears, my mistakes, my thoughts of suicide. I learned how to name what I was feeling instead of stuffing it down. And little by little, the weight on my chest started to lift.

In group sessions, I met people like me, LGBTQ folks who had felt alone, afraid, and broken. We laughed. We cried. We held space for each other. For the first time in a long time, I didn’t feel like a problem to be fixed. I felt seen.

Support for the Body and the Mind

One thing I love about Inspire Recovery is that they don’t just focus on therapy. They help you build a healthy life, too. I started to care about my body again. I learned how to eat better, get rest, and move my body in ways that felt good.

They didn’t push anything on me. They gave me tools and let me decide what felt right. That kind of freedom helped me feel in control of my life again. And when you’ve spent so long feeling powerless, that matters more than anything.

The truth is, recovery isn’t just about stopping the bad stuff. It’s about recreating things for the better. Creating a life that feels safe, a life that feels worth living. That’s what Inspire gave me.

My Message to You

If you’re reading this and you feel like giving up, I need you to know one thing: you are not alone. I know it hurts. I know how heavy the nights can be. But there is help out there. Some people care, people who understand. You just have to look around.

Inspire Recovery helped me stay alive and inspired me to move forward despite the odds of life. I owe it to their team of awesome people. They helped me find hope in a place I thought was too dark to heal. They reminded me that I am not just my diagnosis or my past. I am a whole person, and I deserve to live.

Call Inspire Recovery at 561-621-1266 to have someone to talk to about sexual health, drug and substance abuse, and emotional distress. You don’t have to do this alone. Life doesn’t end with HIV, drugs, or any form of substance abuse. It just changes, and with the right help, it can get better.

Can HIV cause suicidal thoughts?

Yes. For me, it did. HIV doesn’t just affect the body. It gets in your head, too. The stress, fear, and shame can feel heavy. If I didn’t have support, I don’t know where I’d be. A lot of people with HIV feel alone or scared, and those feelings can lead to dark thoughts.

Is it normal to feel depressed after learning I have HIV?

Normal. I felt like my world had stopped. Everything changed. But I learned I wasn’t alone. Getting support helped me stop feeling stuck in those feelings. It’s okay to feel sad, but it’s not OK to stay stuck there.

What helped you deal with suicidal thoughts?

Talking about it. I opened up in therapy and LGBTQ-affirming support groups at Inspire Recovery. I learned how to cope, how to breathe through the hard days, and how to start believing in myself again. That place gave me tools I didn’t know I needed.

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